I recently had the opportunity to complete the below interview with Jaleh Weber for Associated Content for Yahoo! Here is the copy along with a link to the article.
7 Signs A Woman Really Loves a Man
Interview with Therapist Jennifer Elmquist, MA, LMFT
Are you wondering if the woman your with really loves you? To help recognize the signs that a woman really loves a man, I have interviewed therapist Jennifer Elmquist, MA, LMFT.
Tell me a little bit about yourself. "I wear a lot of hats and I love what I do! As a Licensed Mental Health Professional I serve clients in private practice, teach graduate students, and provide Mental Wellness training and coaching to companies. All of my work is focused on the passion of normalizing mental health services and helping people see the preventative health outcomes that result from pursuing Mental Wellness. Through my Minneapolis based business, Restoration Productions, I meet individuals and couples at all different places in their story; some at the beginning of a new chapter, some in the middle of a hard chapter and others at the end of a painful chapter. I believe in our self-efficacy to heal and enjoy the journey with clients as they learn to write their best story. I also love to teach and speak on Mental Wellness and provide services to corporations with the goal of building happier employees and working cultures. This year I celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary with a man I have been privileged to love and build a great family with over the years. There is nothing like learning about love on the trenches of life!"
What are 7 signs that clue a man in that a woman really loves him?
"I think many of the signs that clue us in on the feelings of others, especially genuine love, are universal and can be applied to both genders. Here are some things to look for if you want to know if your love is the real deal:
1. Reciprocity. If someone really loves you it will be important to them to know you intimately and that you also get to know them. Look for equal parts of curiosity about your life and a willingness to share about their life. A one sided encounter either way is a red flag.
2. Time. When you are in love there is a desire to spend time with one another. Look for a partner that enjoys and prefers spending time with you.
3. Respect. It is important that you feel your partner respects your life and who you are without trying to change or manipulate you. This means that even if you disagree they can voice their concerns, listen to your point of view and in the end support you wholeheartedly. Love can handle differences and honors you as an individual.
4. Confidence. Look for a partner that is confident in who they are and loves you from this place. Real love doesn’t originate from a needy or demanding place, relying on another person to prop up a shaky identity. Self-confidence is what allows love to weather the storms of life.
5. Endurance. Having the ability to persevere ups and downs without needing to fix, blame or criticize is a very durable representation of love. Find a partner that can run a long distance race with you while demonstrating patience, kindness and honesty.
6. Intimacy. Real love feels safe being close and open. This is reflective in emotional conversations and sexual relations. It doesn’t mean these interactions are always mind-blowing but there is a passion to be together in these places.
7. Attraction. Your partner needs to think you are awesome and feel attracted to you. This attraction should be both physical and emotional and you should know it and feel it. No fishing for complements here."
What advice would you like to leave for a man who really wants to know if a woman really loves him?
"Read through the 7 signs and evaluate your relationship honestly. A real litmus test in all relationships has to do with words and actions – if they don’t align, something is off. Love should be evident in what your partner says to you and does for you. I believe that genuine love is based on a reciprocated wanting, with our whole being, for the other to become all they were meant to be in this life. That kind of exchange is priceless and requires as much from you as from the other person in a loving relationship that can go the distance. Ask yourself this question: Do you feel this way about your partner and do they feel that way about you? If the answer is yes then you may have just found your love connection."
Thanks Jennifer for doing the interview on 7 signs a woman really loves a man. For more information on Jennifer Elmquist or her work you can check out her website on http://www.jenniferelmquist.com/.
Article on Yahoo!
7 Signs A Woman Really Loves a Man
Interview with Therapist Jennifer Elmquist, MA, LMFT
Are you wondering if the woman your with really loves you? To help recognize the signs that a woman really loves a man, I have interviewed therapist Jennifer Elmquist, MA, LMFT.
Tell me a little bit about yourself. "I wear a lot of hats and I love what I do! As a Licensed Mental Health Professional I serve clients in private practice, teach graduate students, and provide Mental Wellness training and coaching to companies. All of my work is focused on the passion of normalizing mental health services and helping people see the preventative health outcomes that result from pursuing Mental Wellness. Through my Minneapolis based business, Restoration Productions, I meet individuals and couples at all different places in their story; some at the beginning of a new chapter, some in the middle of a hard chapter and others at the end of a painful chapter. I believe in our self-efficacy to heal and enjoy the journey with clients as they learn to write their best story. I also love to teach and speak on Mental Wellness and provide services to corporations with the goal of building happier employees and working cultures. This year I celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary with a man I have been privileged to love and build a great family with over the years. There is nothing like learning about love on the trenches of life!"
What are 7 signs that clue a man in that a woman really loves him?
"I think many of the signs that clue us in on the feelings of others, especially genuine love, are universal and can be applied to both genders. Here are some things to look for if you want to know if your love is the real deal:
1. Reciprocity. If someone really loves you it will be important to them to know you intimately and that you also get to know them. Look for equal parts of curiosity about your life and a willingness to share about their life. A one sided encounter either way is a red flag.
2. Time. When you are in love there is a desire to spend time with one another. Look for a partner that enjoys and prefers spending time with you.
3. Respect. It is important that you feel your partner respects your life and who you are without trying to change or manipulate you. This means that even if you disagree they can voice their concerns, listen to your point of view and in the end support you wholeheartedly. Love can handle differences and honors you as an individual.
4. Confidence. Look for a partner that is confident in who they are and loves you from this place. Real love doesn’t originate from a needy or demanding place, relying on another person to prop up a shaky identity. Self-confidence is what allows love to weather the storms of life.
5. Endurance. Having the ability to persevere ups and downs without needing to fix, blame or criticize is a very durable representation of love. Find a partner that can run a long distance race with you while demonstrating patience, kindness and honesty.
6. Intimacy. Real love feels safe being close and open. This is reflective in emotional conversations and sexual relations. It doesn’t mean these interactions are always mind-blowing but there is a passion to be together in these places.
7. Attraction. Your partner needs to think you are awesome and feel attracted to you. This attraction should be both physical and emotional and you should know it and feel it. No fishing for complements here."
What advice would you like to leave for a man who really wants to know if a woman really loves him?
"Read through the 7 signs and evaluate your relationship honestly. A real litmus test in all relationships has to do with words and actions – if they don’t align, something is off. Love should be evident in what your partner says to you and does for you. I believe that genuine love is based on a reciprocated wanting, with our whole being, for the other to become all they were meant to be in this life. That kind of exchange is priceless and requires as much from you as from the other person in a loving relationship that can go the distance. Ask yourself this question: Do you feel this way about your partner and do they feel that way about you? If the answer is yes then you may have just found your love connection."
Thanks Jennifer for doing the interview on 7 signs a woman really loves a man. For more information on Jennifer Elmquist or her work you can check out her website on http://www.jenniferelmquist.com/.
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